Stand By Your Man

Ladies, it's hard to lead! There are so many things that need to trigger at once just to keep a dance going. These are just to name a few: starting the dance, timing, frame, body positioning, thinking of the next pattern before the current one is over, people on the floor, floor-craft, leading you (while you're right in front of him), not to mention technique or styling. As a follow, we get the luxury of not having to really know all of our patterns inside and out. We get to work on technique & styling pretty early on so, it's understandable that a box, after a box, after a box might get boring. However, it's so important to be patient while your man is learning to lead. Imagine us getting thrown in front of a stalled out car (unless you're the exception) and told to figure out what is wrong with it. It would take a while before we'd be comfortable enough to know right away how to fix it. That's usually how the lead feels while learning to dance. He's processing everything he's learned in a 5-6-7-8 countdown that sometimes may stall out a bit. It's okay, it's normal. Have fun and enjoy his company. Dance with him and all of your patience will eventually pay off. It's better than him getting frustrated and quitting before realizing that he's quite capable of dancing.